Wednesday, January 5, 2022

2021: the year of change in stasis

My word for 2021 was LEARN. Looking back, I think I did that.

Thank God for His patience with me, and His always faithful love. His goodness is eternal. His steadfastness is a well of courage. He is the only Truth in the universe, and He invites us to seek and find. 

Last year I...

Read the entire Harry Potter series out loud to my husband and son...

Acquired a new old car named Han "Stormtrooper" Solo...

Got a new dining table...

Had the scary leak in our basement fixed by some true professionals...

Found out I'm pregnant again! Baby girl Coté, due in February...

Lost one of the sweetest kitty boys in the world, the dashing and heroic Bombadil...







Said hello to a new friend, Princess Peach, and had fun watching her grow alongside baby Salem...









Grew some flowers in my garden...

Helped plan my sister's wedding to her true love...





And rejoiced very selfishly when they moved into a house only five minutes away...

Painted our house a bright, warm, Abuela's-house-in-Mexico orange (well, I and many friends)...



Made it just past the halfway mark on a novel I've been working on for some time (don't rush me)...

Saw the new baby giraffe at the zoo...

Took my boys to Vala's on a perfectly crisp fall day...

Watched my very cool, very determined husband run a marathon...


Relied on God a lot when our life was turned upside down over one week in November: both cars out of commission, broken and replaced furnace, and Zac lost his job...

Received the precious blessing of peace from the Holy Spirit as I watched God provide for all those needs with perfect timing...

Cheered Zac on as he found a new job...

Celebrated Salem's first birthday...


Spent a huge amount of time, planned and unplanned, at my parents' house, which somehow feels even more like home to me now than when I actually lived there...



Baptized a friend...

Shared dinner with my sister and her husband most Fridays...

Gave and received many gifts...




Cooked many meals, played many games, hugged many friends, sang many songs, read many books...





Daydreamed about the next time I will see Lake Superior...

Resolved to buy more books and fill my home with only good stories...

And to be more intentional with photos documenting a beautiful life...

And to never let fear appear to me more powerful than my God.


This year, my word is INVEST. May God bring fruit out of the learning.

"He who trusts in riches shall fall, but the righteous shall flourish like a green leaf." -Proverbs 11:28

Thursday, November 4, 2021

Another poem about washing the dishes (?)

What can I say but that monotony inspires poetry?


Prometheus

Eventually,

it all became routine.

The cliff, the eagle, the blood. 

There was a rhythm to it, a savage kind of defiance

in ceasing to struggle. 

Every day became a small eternity, 

its own cycle of destruction and reincarnation.

Every morning he blessed the sun for its renewal,

the fiery orb that both taunted and inspired him.

He blessed the sun,

the bright splash of daybreak,

the inward breath that told him he was whole once again.

He’d learned to number the clouds in their colors,

to lift his face and receive the light gratefully.

He would not blame the sun

though it was the herald of his doom, 

bearing on its rays the swift and hungry eagle.

He of all people should know,

fire brings life as well as death. 


Friday, October 22, 2021

Let's talk about IVF

Is in vitro fertilization a moral or ethical practice, and should I, as a pro-life Christian, support it? Perhaps you've never asked, or been asked, this question before, but it's important for us, as principled individuals, to have a clear and well-defined philosophy on any Life issue. 

For the purposes of this post, IVF is defined as the process by which a mother and father's egg and sperm are combined to create a new life outside the womb, and then that new life is either implanted in the womb or frozen in a kind of stasis until the parents decide what should be done with it.




This practice is wrong. It is not ethically consistent with either a pro-life or a Christian Life ethic, and we need to start thinking about it more critically.

Before going further, I want to fully acknowledge that this is a sensitive and painful topic. I've heard many families' heartbreaking stories about infertility, and I know that the decision to attempt IVF is not made lightly by anyone. Feel free to disagree with me on this, but regardless of the difficulty, I think my claim is valid. Here's why:  

On a basic level, IVF is both selfish and wasteful. Selfish because it creates tiny humans who are then subject to the will of others, the question of whether they will have a chance to grow answered not by natural means, but by the parents' choice. Wasteful because even in the most hopeful of circumstances, it is generally accepted and even expected that not all babies created through IVF will survive to be born, or even be implanted in their mother's womb. This has created a consumerist attitude toward IVF babies, where their futures are determined either by convenience or desperation. 

A mother who experiences one successful pregnancy may decide she doesn't desire to repeat the process with her leftover embryos. She may die, or develop health problems that make it unwise for her to become pregnant, before having the chance to bear all her children. On the other hand, a mother may choose to implant the last of her IVF children only because the process hasn't been successful yet. The result is either that the remaining babies are never prioritized for a chance at life, or the one successful pregnancy leaves behind it a trail of miscarried siblings. 

Those miscarried babies are precious lives lost, every one a tragedy. And those extra embryos, the ones never implanted, are often left behind in "storage," never to be implanted unless a new family comes to adopt them from their biological parents. 

Creating a human and then essentially putting them into cryo-sleep until it suits you to give them a chance at growing (possibly never) is unethical, no matter one's reasoning. IVF treats human lives as products. There is no dignity in it for the person created in the process. 

And the industry itself displays an ironic callousness toward unborn lives, regardless of how the parents feel about their embryos. Use of IVF is always accompanied by the basic assumption that not all embryos created this way will survive--and if those children do miraculously beat the odds, it actually complicates the situation further. Parents are warned against implanting too many of their children at a time, lest those babies actually grow and the pregnancy become threatening to the mother's health. 

In this case, many OBGYNs will advise their IVF patients that "selective reduction"--ending the life of one or more of the growing embryos--is a desirable way to prevent too many of them from surviving until a dangerous point. So not only are babies selectively chosen for life during the implantation process, they are also often selectively marked for destruction if the process is too successful. 

Even if we leave all these extenuating circumstances behind, even if you acknowledge the humanity of your artificially created children, and desire them all to survive and be born, does that justify the selfish act of suspending them in limbo? Does it justify creating a buffer of multiple babies out of the statistically-supported fear that less than half of them actually will survive? 

There is, perhaps, somewhat of a gray area here in which one might make a moral case for creating and implanting only one embryo at a time, simulating the circumstances of most natural pregnancies. But even then the question becomes: where does it end? A single embryo created through IVF has only a 47% chance of surviving a pregnancy. That's about twice the usual risk to the embryo as in a natural pregnancy, which is why so many parents choose--and many doctors advise-- to create and implant multiple babies at a time. 

Every child, from zygote to newborn and beyond, is a unique and beautiful creation. IVF cheapens that creation by causing society to value them less, and view them as products rather than people. Children created through IVF are of the same worth as every other child created in the image of God. They are not potential children, they are children. Children created to become essentially the unwitting subjects of a lab experiment. The question posed by this experiment: will this baby live or die?

Human lives are not ours to control and manipulate. The humanity of IVF babies demands dignity. A pro-life person knows this. A Christian knows this. 

So we cannot be casual about IVF anymore. We can't be casual about the commodification of life. We should be champions of selflessness and patient endurance of trials, even the heartbreaking trial of infertility. We should be champions of adoption--including the adoption of the children who have spent their entire lives frozen in test tubes, waiting for the chance to be born. 

If you are struggling with infertility, my heart hurts for you in your struggle. God's heart hurts with you. But suffering has never justified injustice. Together we should fight to create a world in which the value of every human life is fully acknowledged. 

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